HOW MAY I HELP YOU?

     The familiar question that a service person asks is especially relevant today, as Moon has moved into Cancer, the sign of nurturing. And Moon will join with Jupiter tomorrow, expanding the awareness of caring and support even further.
     At the heart of all service is this inquiry, this invitation. How may I help you? Can I be of assistance? In service we ask--what do you need? Do you need someone to listen, to hear you, to understand? Do you need kindness, a helping hand? Do you need some space, to be left alone for awhile? Do you need a kick in the butt, some straight talk, some tough love, someone who will challenge you, and call you on your bullshit?
     And then there's the problem of care-taking, trying to fix the other person, mainly so that you can feel better. In Minnesota, a hotbed of codependency awareness, perhaps because we are so darned "nice", we are learning the difference between supporting and controlling, we are learning about boundaries. And we are learning that it's okay to feel uncomfortable without trying to fix it. And that you haven't failed if someone you love doesn't want your help. 
     You offer what you've got, and the other makes a choice to receive it or not. What you're offering comes from deep in your heart. It is your love that asks the question "how may I help you?" and it is love that will answer.